We are all adults living in a grownup body, but deep inside of us lies a part that has not grown up and has not caught up with the mature self that we believe ourselves to be. This part of us has remained a small child which is arrested in an early age and stage because when we were emotionally wounded in our childhood, we were blocked in our development. These are the parts inside us that have remained childish and regressed. These wounded areas correspond to the periods in our childhood in which we experienced trauma, leaving us blocked or frozen, shocked, with phobias, fixations, depression and obsessions/compulsions. The presence of the unhealed hurt within us makes it impossible for us to access our inner resources that would enable us to blossom and grow.
The inner child is also the part of us that is capable of true feeling and responsiveness, of love and compassion. There is freshness to it and the capacity to be vulnerable and sensitive. From this place we are able to connect with others without protection, without defense. The inner child has other aspects to it as well, magical aspects. It is the part within us that feels inspiration and has a sense of wonder, loving eyes, alleviating hope, enthusiasm for life and infinite creativity. Coming in touch with our magical child, we are able to connect directly to life’s source within us. It the doorway to access our Essential Being.
The inner child work can make us us aware of the different parts that operate in our inner world. We aren’t always operating from our true adult self. So often, our inner child emerges from the unconscious and dominates the scene. Our disowned needs, wishes, desires and hurts take precedence and control our lives without us being aware of this phenomenon. While believing that we operate as adults, most often we act out from our disowned inner child’s hurt. Working with the inner child brings transparency to this.
The other important aim of the inner child work is to teach us self-love. When we say self-love here, we mean the love of the Self, not loving or pampering our ego. Indeed it is very difficult to love oneself, where we have not been seen, loved, mirrored and appreciated from our parents.
This profound work teaches us self-love and self-acceptance from the beginning, as well as it shows us the ways in which we have been wounded in our childhood. We get an in-depth understanding of our psychological issues and the way our life is impacted from them in the here and now. We also get in touch with the magical child in us. The magical child is directly connected to our Essence. It contains the blueprint of who we truly are beyond the ego. The last time we were our Essential Self is when we were at that age, so connecting now and discovering our magical child we get a pure glimpse of our Essential being. This becomes a compass which shows us where to look in order to find our Essence again.
The inner child work allows us to clear the object relations of our false structure, our ego that we created in order to defend ourselves when we were children. Through this work we can find out who we are beyond the conditioning that was imposed on us in our childhood.